Sometimes, as women, it’s hard to find reasons we love ourselves. But we have to make it a priority. Here are some tips to creating a list of things you love about YOU.
I struggle with self-love. I’m a perfectionist at heart and never feel like I’m living up to the expectations I place on myself. In fact, my mom has always told me I’m my own worst critic and it’s so true!
I think that we’re all a little bit this way–or most of us at least.
Self-Love is Hard, But Self-Love is Important
Sometimes it can be hard to look at ourselves and see the good. We’re so used to looking for ways to change. Ways to be better. But looking for ways to improve often turns into looking for flaws, berating ourselves for these flaws, and then consequently not making any forward progress because why try when we’re already convinced we’re worthless?
In trying to overcome my perfectionist tendencies, I’ve learned the power behind self-love. Self-love is perhaps the most important skill we can learn. And today I’m going to teach you a tip to finding those things about yourself that you love or are proud of.
Make a List
In order to learn to love ourselves, we need to first find out what it is that we love about ourselves. And then we need to physically write them down. Something magical happens when we put pen to paper–not keys to keyboard–and physically write things out.
So where do we start? Well, we’re going to start with a list of 50–yes, five-zero–things we love about ourselves. Yes, I know it sounds intimidating, but stay with me. You can do it!
If you get stuck, try breaking it down into categories to help trigger your mind:
- Start with physical traits. Try to list at least 5 things you love about your body. If you can’t think of anything you love about your body, focus on what each body part does and how it helps you. So maybe you don’t like the way your eyes look, but do you love what they mean to your life? I’m guessing you do. They allow you to see! Teeth allow you to eat yummy food. Hands allow you to write or cook or take care of your kids. When you focus on what your body does for you, instead of how it looks, you’ll find plenty of reasons to love it.
- Then move to talents and try to list 5 of those. Remember that talents are more than just hobbies like singing or dancing. Some people are really good at listening or coming up with fun activities for their kids or complimenting others.
- Next, move to personality traits. Aim for 10 of those.
- After that, move to specific accomplishments or even small moments when you did something good. This can be something grand like “graduating summa cum laude” or something small like “when I was six and turned the $50 bill in to customer service I found on the floor at Target.” Start with your childhood and name 10. Then move to your teenage years and do another 10. Finally, focus on your adulthood and add another 10.
That should bring you to 50 things! If you’re stuck, ask a close friend, a parent, your spouse, or even a child to help you. They might say something that you’d never think of, but once they say it, you realize it’s true!
Important Note for Those that are Struggling
If you’re thinking, “50 things? I have to think about 50 things I love about myself? I can’t even think of one thing I love about myself!” First of all, I feel for you. I’ve been there. Here’s my suggestion: if you’re religious at all–even if you think you believe in God, but aren’t sure–I challenge you to pray.
Ask God to help you see the good inside of you. Ask for just a glimpse of what He sees in you. If you ask sincerely, I promise you He will help you feel His love for you and that you’ll be able to feel that love for yourself.
I feel so strongly that everyone deserves to feel love for themselves and everyone deserves to see a little bit of what God sees in them. And I know that He will answer your plea for help.
Keep Your List Somewhere Handy
Once your list is done, put it somewhere you can see it often or have easy access to when you need a little boost. Keep it by your bed, tape it to your bathroom mirror, slide it into your journal, put it in the glovebox of your car, take a screenshot of it and keep it with you on your phone wherever you go. You can even make several copies and leave them in a few different places if you want. Then, if you’re having a moment where you’ve forgotten what you love about yourself, you can grab it and read through it for a quick reminder.
I created this free printable for you to list your items on. You can download it here or by clicking on the image below.
What’s one thing you love about yourself?
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