I believe that one of the steps to self-confidence is loving who you are. If you don’t love you, you SHOW UP as a person who doesn’t love yourself. You believe you don’t belong, so you act like you don’t belong. You believe you’re not good enough, so you hold back and don’t do your best.
But if you love who you are and believe you have worth, you show up with confidence and passion and energy and light.
Confidence is magical. It’s life changing. Even more, it’s WORLD changing. But first, you have to love yourself.
So here are a few truths about self-love that will boost your confidence right now.
#1: You don’t have to be like everyone else.
That’s right. It’s okay to Just. Be. You. In fact, it’s better that way!
Can you imagine how boring the world would be if we were all exactly the same? Don’t sign me up for that world!
Your strengths, your weaknesses, your hobbies, your opinions, your talents, your likes, your dislikes—those are what make you YOU! They don’t have to look like your mom’s or your neighbor’s or that girl you love to follow on social media.
And if the way you live your life seems to be different than the way everyone else around you lives, that doesn’t mean your way is wrong or less than. For all you know, they’re only doing it because someone else is.
So you do YOU. Stay true to who you are and what feels right for you.
#2: Nobody Has It All Together
Nobody! We all have flaws. We all make mistakes. We all have a messy house sometimes. We all lose our temper. That’s just how life works.
We’re usually seeing the best versions of people. Whether in person or online, people tend to show the best version of themselves to the world. That’s just how it works.
In our highly visual world, we’re constantly bombarded with snapshots into the lives of people around us and people we don’t even know. With reality television, social media, and other entertainment forms, we’re seeing even MORE of what the people around us are doing. What their homes look like. How they’re spending their time and money. And a lot of this looks pretty perfect. It seems like everyone around us has their lives figured out.
The problem is, we’re typically only seeing is the highlight reel, not the struggle bus moments. And we ALL have struggle bus moments! Yes, even that girl you follow on Instagram who seems perfect! We’re not seeing all the bad days, all the chaos behind the camera, all the hurt and the pain and the bad habits and the insecurities and the REALITY.
It may SEEM like Jamie always has a clean house, but I promise you there are days when the dishes pile up. And it may SEEM like Jenna always looks put together, but she wears dirty leggings and yesterday’s makeup on occasion like the rest of us.
So the fact that you can’t seem to finish your to-do list and lose your temper more than you’d like and feel so tired at the end of the day that you crash on the couch to catch-up on The Bachelorette instead of tackling the dishes doesn’t make you less than. It makes you human.
#3: You are enough, as you are, right now.
This is one of my favorite truths about self-love. I use it as a mantra or affirmation to tell myself when I start to doubt myself, my abilities, or my worth.
It’s one of those things that’s really, REALLY hard to believe, but that doesn’t make it any less true.
Your value, your worth, is something you were born with. It’s not determined by how many friends you have or how many things you do or how well you do them. It just is!
Whether you’re sitting on the couch resting or taking a meal to someone who just had a baby, your value is the same.
You’re no MORE valuable when you work and you’re no LESS valuable when you rest.You’re doing your best, and that is ENOUGH.
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It’s okay to be you, it’s okay to make mistakes, and you don’t have to prove your worth. Life is hard, and you’re doing a really great job.
When you start to accept these truths about self-love and to really, TRULY believe it, your confidence will soar and you’ll step into the person you’re meant to be.
If you feel like your self-love could use another pep talk, stay tuned! Over the next few weeks, I’m going to cover 3 ways to help you better love who you are right now.
Or sign up for the free Boost Your Confidence: 5 Days of Self-Love Challenge. You can get more details HERE, or sign-up below:
In the meantime, here are a few related posts to check out:
- Why Self-Love is Dying & Why We Need to Fix It
- Managing Unrealistic Expectations
- Simple Self-Love Activity for Kids